Tuesday, May 29, 2012

May Madness: Knowing Your Place


Dear Friends,


Recently, I have been having some changes in the people that are my friends and those who I wanted more than friendship from. One of the main reasons why I hate dating is because some women tend to make sure men know their place in their life. Some women don’t do this and want a man to make them happy but others make sure men know their place. This is something I have wanted to write about because it boggles my mind as to how women do this. So this is going to be the blog about knowing your place in life and with women in general.

First and foremost, why do women tell a man to know his place in their lives? Some women have been hurt by men and that’s their way to weed out the users from the sincere ones. That I can understand and relate to only because I have been hurt myself. I can also understand if the woman is too busy to be in a relationship and just want a man for friendship or a shoulder to lean on. That makes perfect sense to me. However, in this world we live in now, women make a man know their place because to some women, they either use men for monetary purposes and sex or they use a man to have kids and leave them out in the cold. Either way, it is not a good way to make a man feel worth something.

Second, if a woman has been hurt and you just want a male friend, then just say so. Some women don’t make that clear at first or worse, they do something to change or ruin the friendship. Some women tend to do this by screwing a male friend. Some men don’t mind this but those men would take advantage of the situation. Others would do their best to be gentlemen and progress the friendship. If a woman really wants something they would make it clear not use the situation.

Third, if you are complete opposites but you remain friends then leave it as that. Don’t lead a man on to thinking you want him and he won’t do the same. People that date tends to skew the line between friendship and lovers. Having differences is a good thing but also can come back to bite you in the ass. Something I learned is that if you meet someone and you seek friendship but want more then let your intentions be known but if the woman is your opposite or worse, then definitely say something before it gets bad. Some women forget to say something and the situation gets worse. I guess it is better to have similar likes than differences.  

Finally, this is my biggest pet peeve with women: being materialistic. I understand that it is hard to find work. I understand that it is hard to not have a place, a car, or even hope for the future. Some women do have all these things and more while being independent. Some women want a man for friendship and more. Some women don’t want a man at all. However, if a man does not have a job then doesn’t assume he is broke. If a man does not have a place, don’t assume he’s homeless. Women that are materialistic think or assume that if they pay for dinner, movies, or even ice cream then the man is trifling. I don’t have a place to live at per se but I do have a job. I can pay my bills and treat someone to dinner, a movie or ice cream. My overall point is that if a woman makes a man know their place, then things will be ok but if they don’t that’s where the issues lie. For now, I will let this go but I also hope people learn something from this. There is more to come.







Eugene Chandler III

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