Dear Friends,
The other day, I had a friend come to me about her break up
and also what her ex did to her. Now without give out all her business, she
basically had an ex that was a user and was also fucking around with an ex. So
my friend was heart broken and depressed. However, as she was trying to get over
this person, I was not being a good friend. I wish I could say this was a
typical relationship but from what I gathered, this was not a good
relationship. Basically, this person was using them from the start. She knew it
and so did I. What is funny is that the reason why I basically was being a dick
is not only was she blinded by this ex but also because why is it easy for some
to move on but hard for others who think they are in love. Well I am going to
discuss that as best I can.
It took me over ten years to see that it is hard to move on
from someone but it needs to be done. Through out the years, I would be just
like my friend and wallow and cry over someone hurting me. It took some years
and also some friend’s advice about basically moving on and forward. If you
were truly in love then it would take longer but if you were in love but the
other person wasn’t then why wallow. Basically it boils down to if you don’t care;
the other person is not caring as well.
Something that my friend is scared to do is move on. Why is
hard for people to move on after a relationship? Something else I learned from
all the relationship I had is that moving on is hard but after you do, life
gets better and easier. As my friend was wallowing in this messed up
relationship, I kept thinking about why is it hard to move on. Moving on is
beneficial because people assume the other person is crying over them. Most
people don’t know is that if you loved someone and the relationship ends, they
are moving on to forget you. I learned that the hard way because I made the
mistake of assuming. Never assume what someone else is doing after they leave
your life.
Finally, I guess I should be more considerate but the truth
is that since I was at this point and wasn’t going to give a pass. People these
days are assholes and bitches because they don’t want to be nice. People don’t
want to admit that times are tough and even being in a relationship is only
good when there is trust. This relationship was lacking trust and also lacking
the necessary decorum to be called a relationship. My friend got used. She
needs to move on. Stop allowing someone to fuck them over and show them and
yourself that you are going to be with someone better. My friend doesn’t see
that because she was whipped to being in love. I see that because I won’t allow
anyone else to hurt me.
Eugene Chandler III
