Dear Friends,
Now I know I am not considered a parent. I am bordering baby
daddy status. However, compared to most, I do have knowledge of taking care of
children. Over the past couple of months, I have had to witness what would be
called neglect. Someone once told me that a neglected child is a miserable
adult. I guess three neglected children would be a trifecta of screwed.
Children are a blessing according to most but these kids are being fucked over
in ways, I don't want to go into details. Now I am only doing this entry to
make a point to parents: Love your kids not neglect them.
I know three kids who I love and try to see them be better
kids in the long run. It is hard to help kids become something better than
their environment. I grew up with kids not wanting more but less. Kids that
were happy with what the streets provide not seeing what the world can do.
Children are supposed to learn from the adults in their lives. It is hard to
see when a young woman becomes a mother too soon. My son's mother is one of
those women that became a mother too soon. Now, my point is that kids are
supposed to learn from adults. These kids I speak of are learning that their
mother is not around as much and they have to fend for themselves. Kids are not
supposed to do that.
We live in a world where teen parents are glorified by
reality shows. However, these kids are being shown that their mother is not
around when needed. Mom is off partying and doing shit that most single women
do before having kids. I feel sorry for these kids because when their mom is
sleeping off the night life or sneaking out of the door, the kids are doing
things kids are not suppose to do. Kids are not suppose to console and cuddle
with each other. Especially, if they are blood relation to each other. Kids are
not suppose to neglected and treated like shit. I might not be a father but if
I had my son around, all eyes would be on him. These kids would be lucky to
know who their father is or why their mom is not around at night.
Finally, people are blessed to have kids. There are some
people to who cannot have kids. However, these kids I speak of does have a
mother but she's around not by the bond of love but because she's obligated to.
Most people might see kids as a burden but I see them as gifts. It hurts me to
see these kids hurt but I cry when they cry for momma. At the end of the day,
either you love your kids or say fuck them and pretend they exist because it is
an obligation. Either way, you suppose to make sure the kids are first not
last.
Eugene Chandler III
