Thank You All!

Dear Friends, 

This is a simple thank you for all that have read my blogs or have read my posts on Facebook or Twitter. Thank you for the help and support. See you in 2012!

Eugene Chandler III

December To Remember: Last Blog of 2011

Dear Friends,

After careful thought and just reflecting on things, I was going to write about all the events that occurred in 2011. After writing all the positive things I did this year, I decided to use this blog for something else. I mean why I should reflect on the bad things. You know what happened to me after graduation. You know I lost 30 days this year because of child support and the crazy county of Sanilac. You know I was in two relations and one ended horribly and one ended too soon. So rather to go through that shit all over again and for me to cry over dumb mistakes, I will use this blog for something creative and positive. I guess I will just let this last blog for 2011 to be a mix of rants, raves, mistakes I did and what to avoid for 2012.

One thing I plan on doing in the New Year is become a mentor. I want to do this because there are a lot of kids that are so ignorant and need someone to guide them to do the right thing and not be so fucking ignorant. Today, I heard this white kid use the n word. What’s funny is that I walked by them as he said it like four times. Even the other kids were looking at me because they were expecting me to kill the kid. I will leave that to his parents but if that was my adopted kid or my little brother, he would have got his mouth popped.

Another thing I want to do to tutor people. I might not have the patience to teach kids or groups but I can do one on one for people who want to learn. I miss doing this because like I said about mentoring, too many people are ignorant these days. I love to teach one on one because there is not a lot of room for error and mistakes. Either you get it or you don’t. That’s life!

One thing I will avoid in 2012 is being in love. This is my year to heal and get my life right. I have been in and out of relationships since 2001. After ten years, it is time to change my ways and focus on my life. Something I said in June is my motto for 2012: HOPE to DEFY……

I made a huge mistake by getting back with my ex in Monroe. I say this because of the damage that happened in May. I know I said, I was not going to talk about this but I will avoid this from occurring in the future.

I guess my final comment of 2011 is that regardless of the shit I went through or the happiness that I had in my life, I can say that I am better. 2011 might have been both the most depressing and uplifting time of my life. I am not looking to plan for 2012 because I know that I have to get better because most of the year, I was down and almost out. So with that said, Happy New Year and see you in 2012 because there will be more blogs but more projects as well.

Eugene Chandler III

December To Remember: Positively in 2011

Dear Friends,

As the New Year approaches, I am trying to let go of all the bad things that occurred in 2011. I don’t think this is a bad year but I do see a lot of things that caused me to either mess up or change plans. Some of you know that if I put my mind to something that I usually do it. Sad to say that I did mess up big time this year and hope to not bring anymore shit into 2012. I said that I was going to do a year in review but this is not the blog for it. This blog is to focus on the positive things that I accomplished in 2011. I know that might be hard to do since I bitch a lot but I did get some things done. So this is my blog of positives for 2011.

My biggest accomplishment was getting my associate’s degree this past April. If you saw the videos and the blogs, you saw that I was happy to finish something. No matter what happened between my now ex and I, there was hope in my heart about getting that degree. My mother was there to see it but my great aunt was not. I promised her before her death I would get a degree but she died the year before. I know she was watching me from heaven to walk across the stage and get this degree. I will keep that promise when I get my bachelor’s degree by 2014. I hope then my life will be better.

Aside from graduating from school, I rekindled an old relationship. Even though it ended too soon, I was able to knock off one thing off my bucket list: To have one chance to date my high school sweetheart. I did and again, even though it was riddled with stress and bullshit, I can say now that it was worth it. I will still have a place in my heart for her and her kids. No matter what I said in the past, she will always be my first real crush and love.

This was a good year work wise since I worked not only the mlb playoffs but also a Monday night football game and maybe saw something I never though I would see in my life….the Detroit Lions make it into the nfl playoffs. So that would mean I saw: a super bowl, world series, mlb all star game, kid rock and eminem, plus ncaa final four. I always see the wings in the nhl playoffs and I think as a sports fan, I am good with all that.

Finally, I think my overall accomplishment of 2011 is the fact that I lived to see another year. A year that made me a better person but also a better man, I made a promise that in 2012 to myself. A promise that I heal and love myself first because I was too busy loving others and worrying about other shit that was hurting me. So with that said, this is one of my finals blogs for 2011. Thank you for reading and there is more to come in 2011 and 2012.

Eugene Chandler III

December To Remember: My Version of 12 Days

Dear Friends,

I usually don't do things like this but I decided to do my warped and life based version of the 12 days of Christmas. This is not supposed to be funny but this is how I see the 12 days prior to Christmas. Also, please don't get upset because you were warned. Here's my version of the 12 days of Christmas:

•      One crazy redhead.
•  Two crazy chicks.
•       Three strikes you’re out.
•   Four missing weeks.
•        Five silly villagers
•        Six is full of tricks.
•        Seven never even.
•     Eight is full of hate.
•     Nine mighty fine.
•   Ten ex-girlfriends.
•   Eleven my luck number.
•    Twelve is midnight

This is my version of the 12 days of Christmas, this is not a joke or to be funny. I just wanted to use my life this year to break down the days leading to Christmas. I wish I could be funny or exciting but most of the time, I am honest and forthcoming with things in my life. With that, that is all for now but there is more to come.

Eugene Chandler III

December To Remember: My Dislike of Christmas

Dear Friends,

By now you know that I don't like this time of the year. I definitely do not like Christmas. Not because it is the birth of Jesus Christ but more so because the lack of family involvement of recent years. As I sit here and write this, I look at my niece and nephews. They still believe there is a Santa Claus and also there is Jesus. Children grow up with a sense of amazement and belief but unlike my niece and nephews, I learned the hard way that this time of the year is not good for me. This is my views about Christmas both with Santa and Jesus. Even though I have a son, even my son is getting taught that even though it is a magical time there is hell to bear also.

When I was about six, I learned my first lesson about this time of the year. I learned that there was no Santa. Most people learn that later but I was early. The way I found out was not by accident but by dumb luck. You know how they tell you that you have to be sleep for Santa to deliver your gifts. Well I stayed up and watched my mother put the gifts under the tree. I would say that I was shocked but I was more stunned but later got over it. To me, Santa is a myth for kids to hold until they get to their teens. When you find out before then, you get jaded like me.

Until 2006, my holidays were spent with my great aunt and my mother. Thanksgiving was more so for us but Christmas was more of a day of celebrating Jesus' birth. Before I continue, please note that even though I do believe in Christ, I know that some people don't think he was born on December 25^th. Like I was saying, my great aunt would read the story of Jesus' birth. Even as a young adult, hearing the story of his birth would give me a sense of peace because this was a child born into the world by extraordinary situations.

As I look forward to 2012, I see that I have to do what I can to avoid how I have been feeling around this time of year. I get through Thanksgiving because I work but Christmas is different. The world shuts down on Christmas. Nothing is open until after Christmas. I think that's why I want to be working a job that does not care about Christmas. I use to see this as a holiday but now, I see that this is more for kids and those who believe in Jesus. I find myself trying to not be a scrooge but I think I just want to see a new year. That is all for now but there is more to come since this is the holidays.

Eugene Chandler III