Dear Friends,
Usually, I would not really vent about what people think
about me. I decided to do this entry only to finally ask this question out
loud. Lately, some of my friends especially some of my female friends admitted
that they want a bad boy. Now for the last 10 years, I have been plagued with
the label of being good. I already did a good guy blog and a bad guy blog this
week. However, why is it that most women want a bad boy? With all the shit on
TV like reality TV, court shows, and other shit, why does a woman want a bad
boy? I am not a saint but I am not out in the street selling drugs, stealing,
or doing a street hustle. So just like what I just asked about why a woman
wants a bad guy, I really want to ask what does a bad boy got that makes a
woman want them over someone that is trying to be good.
First of all, I honestly think some women are really
conflicted with their choices in men. By wanting a bad boy, you set yourself to
the reticule of being associated to someone that is not doing good for
themselves. I say that because if you watch daytime TV or even any reality
show, the bad boys always get called to do DNA test for kids and being
basically a male ho. I have stories of female friends bitching about their
boyfriends who are bad boys basically fucking around, selling drugs or beating
them. I might be wrong for saying this but most of it is true. Like I said, I
am not a saint but at least I am myself and real not a persona.
Second, for these women that want a bad boy, there is also
the fact that you can get caught into their world and their dirty. I know most
of the bad boys hold good jobs but we all know that the streets are a brutal
bitch sometimes. Women that hang with bad boys tend to be caught into the
crosshairs of stupid nonsense. Women do die from being with their bad boy
boyfriends while hanging in the streets. I am not trying to sound jaded but
watch the news and see what I mean.
Third, bad boys and good women do equal baby drama. No
matter how you spin it, baby drama usually kills the façade of a bad boy. Maury
is a prime example of what happens when you get a wannabe or legit bad boy with
a woman or little girl. DNA test and polygraphs test run rampant with women
that wanted a bad boy but get someone that becomes a deadbeat dad.
Fourth, my personal favorite when some women say they want a
bad boy: because good guys finish last. That’s a bunch of bullshit. I am not a psychologist
but most of these women that want a bad boy show that their reasons stem from
the opposite of what their fathers or father figures did. If they worked their
asses off, they wanted someone that did a street hustle.
I might be speaking out of my ass. I might sound like a bitter
person for what some women want in a guy. However, I just wish that some women
would think about the real men in the world. Guys that want someone to be
themselves and not females looking for a thrill or someone that is different
then what they been dealing with. Sometimes, it is easier for some people to
just be alone. I am not saying that about myself but I think men would be
happier with normal women and vice versa for women. I am not saying all bad
boys are not good for some women but I am saying that those that are really bad
and no good don’t need someone good to be with them. What’s ironic is that most
of my female friends tell me they want a bad boy but really they want someone
that can provide and support themselves and others. I guess I will never know what makes a woman
want a bad boy but I can hope to find women that want a good man.
Eugene Chandler III
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