May Madness: Being Played

Dear Friends,

We live in a world of users and abusers. Users basically use people to gain something or get something for free. Abusers hurt people and make life hell for others. The result of being used and abused is called being played. Being played is something people don’t want to happen to them. There are good hearted people in this world and those are the main targets for users and abusers. I want to share a story about something like this and also share my opinion on being played.

Here’s the story that I was referring to:

I had a friend recently tell me about how she met someone but they have been playing with them and also using them. It started with friendship and favors. However, when her lady friend lost his job and also lost his car, it became a bigger issue. He would take her car and use her money for silly things rather than pay bills. Now it is getting worse because this guy is teasing her with sex and mind fucking her by lying to her. She is not only confused but losing money and almost lost her job because of this guy.

Now, I have a simple rule for the story above: If you can help someone then help them but if you cannot, don’t lose sleep over it.  It is said to see someone go through something like this. This is how things are now because there are a lot of people that are unemployed and they become users and abusers. Now when they become that, that’s when they being to play with other people’s emotions and wallets.

My advice to my friend was simple: Move on and forward because this person will hurt you if you don’t. I hate to see someone being used and played but it is something that cannot be avoided. Especially, when she has a good heart and is a good Christian woman that is getting played.

One more thing, I know you cannot avoid this but you prevent it by simply not being as trusting as you have been. I have learned to see these users and abusers from a mile away. Some people would call me a user and an abuser. All I can say is that life is a bunch of twist and turns. All you can do is go with the flow or get hurt by the curves. That’s all for now but there will be more to come.

Eugene Chandler III