Dear Friends,
Whoever came up with the phrase:” Ignorance is bliss”, must have dealt with someone that is very ignorant and bigoted. I have someone that is like that phrase. You might be asking why I am close to this person. I’m not. This is a friend of a friend. Since I have been down here a lot of my friends had ignorant friends that are so closed mined to people in general. One of my pet peeves is someone that is very ignorant. I’m African American, so I am use to seeing someone’s true nature to being around someone that is not their own race. Someone once said, “The only race on this earth is this human race.” There might be other ethnicities but there is only one race.
This person I mention is basically a woman that does not know what’s outside their shitty little world. It started with ignorant comments about the N word and also race jokes. Then it became whispers and more ignorant comments. Now, I want to hurt them because of their fucked up comments. I don’t like this person but have to be around them because of someone I know. As I try to deal with this person, I try to remember this person is very ignorant and backwards.
I have advice for people that deal with ignorant people: If you know someone like that, let them go and move on. If you have someone in your family, don’t be around them. If you work with someone like that, ask to be re-assigned. Avoidance is better than falling to their level. Ignorance is bliss but the less you know, the more you might end up getting the shit beat out of you. There are not stupid questions but there are dumb and ignorant people.
Eugene Chandler III
Friday, March 18, 2011
March Madness: Guilty Parties
Dear Friends,
For the last couple of years, I have been fighting something that upsets me to my core. I hate that this bothers me and I allowed it. My mother told me of stories about people that let this happen to them. What I am talking about us what people call catholic guilt or plain guilt. I was not made to feel guilty about anything. Most Detroiters are born into a guiltless world. However, there are people that have relatives that make them feel guilty. I’m in a bad position of being with someone that has someone that makes them feel guilty. People are supposed to do things because they want to or if it would help them. However, that’s not the case here.
I believe that people are supposed to have free will not be forced or coerced into doing something. Unless you are brainwashed or tricked, you don’t have to do anything but again guilt is different. The boiling point was this weekend. I am tired of being forced or coerced into doing something. My thing is that with what’s about to happen in my life, I need to be able to go when and where without questions. I make my own plans for my day not anyone or anything else. Guilt is not going to be in my life but I have to fight to achieve that goal.
So I have advice to anyone that allows someone to guilt you into doing something you don’t want to do: Fight. If someone in your family is making you go somewhere or do something, fight. I think if people want to have free will, then you would fight to have it. As kids, you do things because you are not a grown up or have something to gain from doing it. However, if someone guilt you to do it, fight. I hope this will be the only time I will ever bring this up because it is hard to live life without someone making you feel like shit.
Eugene Chandler III
For the last couple of years, I have been fighting something that upsets me to my core. I hate that this bothers me and I allowed it. My mother told me of stories about people that let this happen to them. What I am talking about us what people call catholic guilt or plain guilt. I was not made to feel guilty about anything. Most Detroiters are born into a guiltless world. However, there are people that have relatives that make them feel guilty. I’m in a bad position of being with someone that has someone that makes them feel guilty. People are supposed to do things because they want to or if it would help them. However, that’s not the case here.
I believe that people are supposed to have free will not be forced or coerced into doing something. Unless you are brainwashed or tricked, you don’t have to do anything but again guilt is different. The boiling point was this weekend. I am tired of being forced or coerced into doing something. My thing is that with what’s about to happen in my life, I need to be able to go when and where without questions. I make my own plans for my day not anyone or anything else. Guilt is not going to be in my life but I have to fight to achieve that goal.
So I have advice to anyone that allows someone to guilt you into doing something you don’t want to do: Fight. If someone in your family is making you go somewhere or do something, fight. I think if people want to have free will, then you would fight to have it. As kids, you do things because you are not a grown up or have something to gain from doing it. However, if someone guilt you to do it, fight. I hope this will be the only time I will ever bring this up because it is hard to live life without someone making you feel like shit.
Eugene Chandler III
March Madness: Spring Changes
Dear Friends,
Well I have been waiting for this day and this time of year. The time of year where things can and will change for the better. In my last entry, I talked about how things were back in 1995 and 1996. Back then I was looking for colleges to go to and also place to better myself. I said that I am also going through the same thing now. Well right now, I am at the finish line for completing one of my goals. I never though I would see this through but I am glad it is here.
My life has been nothing but rough and stressful. I been bitching and moaning since I turned 18. I have had bad relationships, bad life choices and a son that I cannot see. This event is something positive and uplifting. No one can understand what this would do to my self esteem and my passion for life. I have been trying to fight everything from depression to haters. You might ask me if this will change my views, but I can say it will not change anything.
The main objective is that I finish what I started not only in 1996 and again in 2006, to get a college degree, fix my life, and be successful. That’s what I wanted so long ago and I will achieve this goal. No more distractions and this is it for me. There will be more to come because this will never end.
Eugene Chandler III
Well I have been waiting for this day and this time of year. The time of year where things can and will change for the better. In my last entry, I talked about how things were back in 1995 and 1996. Back then I was looking for colleges to go to and also place to better myself. I said that I am also going through the same thing now. Well right now, I am at the finish line for completing one of my goals. I never though I would see this through but I am glad it is here.
My life has been nothing but rough and stressful. I been bitching and moaning since I turned 18. I have had bad relationships, bad life choices and a son that I cannot see. This event is something positive and uplifting. No one can understand what this would do to my self esteem and my passion for life. I have been trying to fight everything from depression to haters. You might ask me if this will change my views, but I can say it will not change anything.
The main objective is that I finish what I started not only in 1996 and again in 2006, to get a college degree, fix my life, and be successful. That’s what I wanted so long ago and I will achieve this goal. No more distractions and this is it for me. There will be more to come because this will never end.
Eugene Chandler III
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