Saturday, June 30, 2012

Summer Showdown: Happy Home Revisitied


Dear Friends,


I have a rule about relationships called happy home. Happy home is basically when two people are in a committed relationship or married. I have had friends tell me their respective mates are being ignorant to their needs or basically acting like an asshole. I am single and would love to be with someone and do anything for them. I hate hearing when people don’t want to do for their mates. If kids are involved, that upsets me even more. I guess because I did not have a real family structure and I had a single mother raise me, I want to have a family more. However, there are some ungrateful motherfuckers in this world that take for granted their vows and also their mates. This is a blog about these ungrateful assholes and some of the things I have heard or have seen.

Part of the marriage vows involves in sickness or in health. So why would a husband ignore that his wife is falling apart? If my wife has even the flu, my ass would make sure she gets well and help run the household. Why would you ignore your wife’s health? My friend is getting dental work done and asked her husband to take her and pick her up from the dentist. His lazy ass said no and that she needs to get a ride. Really? I find that sickening because I would not ignore my wife’s needs and her health.

I have a friend that is about to give birth to her third kid but with a different man. He has not been around to know what he’s having or if the baby is well. My friend spends her nights crying and questioning herself. I am not going to be judgmental because I am in a baby drama. However, I question his motives and also where he’s at when he’s not with her. This is a perfect situation for TV daytime shows like Maury. However, I question the fact that men who want kids are the ones that always run from their duties. Some people think I am a dead beat but how can I be a dead beat if my son lives hundreds of miles from me in a place that is not suitable for minorities.

My favorite story about this is the story about people I known for years that broke the sacrament of marriage. When I heard this, I did not believe it but seeing it in person made me question marriage. I found out that both my friends were screwing around but with people of the same sex. If you ever saw the R Kelly – Trapped In The Closet videos, you will know what I am referring to. I found this out by accident. I was doing them a favor by watching their kids. I was returning the kids to their parents when we walked in on a lesbian sex session in the living room. The kids didn’t see anything but I saw a lot. Usually, it would be a man’s wet dream to see two women getting it on before the man comes in. However, seeing my friend and a younger woman making out made me feel awkward. As they got dressed, the kids are yelling for me to come to the garage. As I go to through the garage, I smell something awful. The kids are standing in the garage and I see my friend’s husband and an older man butt ass naked. The kids were in shock. I wanted to puke. I took the kids to their grand parents house while my friend and her husband get their shit together. When I got back to the house, they sat me down and explain their marriage was a sham. I could go into details but the point of this story was made. Vows were broken.

I wanted to do this blog because I empathize with people when it comes to broken vows and broken trust. I hate seeing someone get hurt. I don’t like that heterosexual couples can marry but same sex couples cannot. I empathize with gay and lesbian couples that can’t be married but I have to witness straight couples be married multiple times. This was not a blog for same sex marriages. However, I will end this blog like this: Marriage is a blessing not something people can do like changing socks. Once you are married, you are married. Divorce is a cop out to people that wanted to be single. Unless there is abuse or other issues, marriages can be worked out.








Eugene Chandler III

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