Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Winter Wasteland: Real Woman


Dear Friends,


In my last blog, I talked about what makes a real man but this is the opposite of that blog. This is what I feel makes a real woman. It is easy for a woman to belittle a man because they not kissing their ass but what makes a real woman. What makes a woman do what they have to do without being with a man or married to a man? I feel that most women can’t really answer this question because the truth will hurt them. I am going to do my best to answer this question.

First, a real woman does not belittle anyone. Most women put so much pressure on a man because they can’t or won’t do what they are asking. When you belittle a man it does make them angry and upset. Why would upset someone you supposedly love? Most women only do what they see from their mothers and aunts. I wet through hell the last three years because I almost let my ex girlfriends make me feel like shit. I used that hate and frustration to get me through to get my associates degree. I hope to be with someone that does belittle their men but that’s a hope I have.

Second, a real woman does not use men like toys. Women who are users tend to think men will do what they want because they are cute, or got a nice body, or because they are getting paid for sex or other things. I hate these women because they use men because they can’t do shit for themselves. These are the women that mind fuck men. These are also the women that make men do dumb things. However, it is ok for these women to do that but if a man does that it is a sin.

Third, a real woman does not provoke anyone. These women do this because some men have anger issues. So women think if they provoke these men they will end up in jail. Women also provoke men because they want to them to make a mistake. Most men avoid this trap because they know themselves. Most women can avoid this by simply not trying to pick a fight. This is another learned behavior that women see from their parents. Learned behavior is not something to be passed down or repeated because it will cause so much pain and heartbreak.

Fourth, a real woman learns to make their own decisions. All women have someone else in their ear. Men have this issue also but women tend to have this more so in life. Women have their mothers, aunts, sisters, friends, and other people in their heads. Most women go to their friends for advice but they get an annoying voice instead. Most women don’t think for themselves because someone is making decisions for them. My last two relationships had mothers that would give more than their opinions. One of my exes mom was basically the third wheel. No matter where we went or what has done, there she was. A real woman would make a decision on their own merit.

Finally, a real woman can live without a man’s support. This is so simple to explain. All my female friends have their own places, their own cars, and their own minds without a man in their life. My mother has been like this for over 30 years. None of these women could do what some women could do. My ex does hold down two jobs, has a car, and a place. However, she is severely stressed.  So much so that she has gall stones that have almost killed her. My point is that she lives without a man’s support.

So why is it hard for women to be able to a real woman? It is a combination of self esteem issues and delusions of grandeur. Women set up too high of standards for themselves and the men they want. Men do the same thing but they have lower standards of women. I have a sense of what I want in a woman and what I want in life. However, I got people telling me I am not a real man. So I can say back to them that they are not a real woman. I love to see anyone that could prove me wrong on this. I would love to see a woman that is a real woman. Because I know that I was a real man and I am working on becoming a real man to someone special. Until then, I live for the moment.









Eugene Chandler III

No comments:

Post a Comment