Winter Wasteland: Real Christian

Dear Friends,

Recently, someone came to me and repeated that they are a Christian. Now I have had experience with people becoming Christian but not knowing the real story. Especially with women who become born again, they use that to make themselves look better than what they were before being saved. So as I been thinking about this, I am not saved or a real Christian. I don’t judge people because according to the bible, only God judges people. So I have decided to answer that question and basically stop people from using that as a phony excuse.

The very first time I heard someone tell me that they are a real Christian was back in 1997. There was this girl name Vikki who lived in Muncie, IN. At the time we were pen pals and we met while she was attending school in Indiana. Now I was young and I did not try to play games with her. I was real with her and she was real with me. We were alone in her room and we both were lying in her bed. We talked all night about ourselves and our dreams. There was no sex but lots of kissing and touching. A few days later, she sends me a letter that God told her to break up with me. Then she tells me she was being a real Christian and that I wanted sex from her. I did not try to have sex with her but I was upset with the fact that she used God as an excuse to get rid of me. It was the first time that I hated people using being a Christian as an excuse in life.

The next time I heard someone tell me they are a real Christian was in 2001. This time, it was an ex that I was friends with. My ex became a born again Christian. She was trying to get me to go to church. She was excited about being born again and I was supportive of that. Now it is Super Bowl weekend of 2001, we were alone in my place. We both were talking and things got heated. We were kissing and things got heated. We were in my bedroom and we had sex. After we had sex, she flipped out on me and ran to the front room to get her bible. I get dressed and she’s in the bathroom crying and praying. She gets herself together and leaves. She contacts me two weeks later and proceeds to tell me that I seduced her and that I made her lose her Christianity. She blamed me for her being a sinner. She told me that she is a real Christian and I never heard from her in life again.

My last time that I heard someone tell me they are a real Christian was recently. This person was someone I was friends with. Now unlike the other two people, they used being Christian as an excuse to judge me for how I lived my life. Not only did they judge my life but told me that I am a sinner for not being a Christian and not letting God in my life. I got fed up with that because I am not trying to deal with someone’s issues with how I live my life.

So what makes a real Christian? I ask this because my step mother, my great aunt, and auntie taught me what makes a Christian man and a Christian woman. I also read the bible and people have told me what they know about being a real Christian. What upsets me is that people use being a Christian as a cop out, as an excuse, and as a way to weasel out of being honest with me. A real Christian does not judge others. A real Christian knows that God judges and God is the almighty. People that claim they are Christian tend to make others ignorant with their views about the subject. I feel like most of the people in my life are Christian by example or by what is written in the bible. I’m not a Christian. I am not saved. I am not active in a church. I do believe in God but I also being in Allah, Buddha, Karma and other higher powers. I do this because I am equal with all religions and people that claim they’re Christians are scared to be honest with others.

For now, I will live my life and I will do my best to be happy. I won’t judge others and I won’t be holier than others. I tend to think that a real Christian is someone that can have people in their lives and not convert them. My thing is that a real Christian can help others without being judgmental and crass. I guess it is easier to be honest with family than with stranger. That’s all for now, but there is more stuff coming.

Eugene Chandler III