Dear Friends,
One thing I have learned about people and life it is that
people need to earn respect and eventually your love. Most people don’t need to
fall in love so quickly with someone and also learn that someone has to respect
you with time. In my youth, it was easy to blur and distort the value of love
and respect. I assumed that people loved me and respected me. I was seriously
bullshitting myself. I am wiser and know that people need to remind themselves
that respect is earned not given. Also, love is not something to jump into. So
I decided to share my views and opinions about love and respect.
Aretha Franklin sung about RESPECT. Respect is something
that is earned. My mother taught me that lesson as a child. Even throughout
history, you see people trying to earn respect. People assume that respect is
something given to people. I know for a fact it is not. Respect is something to
gain in the course of a lifetime. One of my dear friends had to learn the hard
way about earning someone’s respect. When you are dating someone you like,
respect is earned. However, if someone is using you and basically fucking you
over then respect is not going to be earned. People like that tend to be more
disrespectful.
Love is an emotion that tends to be harder to get to and
obtain than having someone’s respect. Love is a lot of things. We are taught
that to love someone no matter what. I learned that love is harder to get than
respect. We respect teachers but love our parents. Ironically, parents are
both. So with our parents and siblings, we have their love and respect.
However, we respect others but it is harder to love them. I learned that I am
seeking someone else’s love. I have the love of my siblings and relatives but
not of someone that I don’t know. Relationships are harder to build because of
the acts of someone else. Love is what it is; it is something that is harder to
gain but easy for people to misuse.
So love and respect are concepts that people tend to use and
abuse often, even I have blurred the line when it comes to both. I have learned
that it is hard to be in love and give respect when people fuck you over. I
will also say that this concept is not going anywhere in my life but at least I
know how to do it better this time around. This is not over but just beginning
in my life.
Eugene Chandler III
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