March Madness: Guilty Parties

Dear Friends,


For the last couple of years, I have been fighting something that upsets me to my core. I hate that this bothers me and I allowed it. My mother told me of stories about people that let this happen to them. What I am talking about us what people call catholic guilt or plain guilt. I was not made to feel guilty about anything. Most Detroiters are born into a guiltless world. However, there are people that have relatives that make them feel guilty. I’m in a bad position of being with someone that has someone that makes them feel guilty. People are supposed to do things because they want to or if it would help them. However, that’s not the case here.

I believe that people are supposed to have free will not be forced or coerced into doing something. Unless you are brainwashed or tricked, you don’t have to do anything but again guilt is different. The boiling point was this weekend. I am tired of being forced or coerced into doing something. My thing is that with what’s about to happen in my life, I need to be able to go when and where without questions. I make my own plans for my day not anyone or anything else. Guilt is not going to be in my life but I have to fight to achieve that goal.


So I have advice to anyone that allows someone to guilt you into doing something you don’t want to do: Fight. If someone in your family is making you go somewhere or do something, fight. I think if people want to have free will, then you would fight to have it. As kids, you do things because you are not a grown up or have something to gain from doing it. However, if someone guilt you to do it, fight. I hope this will be the only time I will ever bring this up because it is hard to live life without someone making you feel like shit.







Eugene Chandler III